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In Relationship With My Natural Hair: A High Tea Event

2017 bAw Natural Hair Appreciation Tea

Good morning!


Welcome to the middle of a very short week! I’m so thrilled that it’s about to be a looong weekend on this side of the world.


Before we get into the festivities of Easter, I thought I’d drop you a quick note around our upcoming Natural Hair Event and why you may be interested in joining us. I’ll also share what you can expect from the day which I’m so excited about!


My natural coils and I having a really good hair day at last year’s Natural Hair Appreciation Tea


The reason I felt impressed to start hosting the Natural Hair Appreciation Tea events, about 2 years ago, was because I woke up one day in 2011 and realized that I didn’t have a relationship with my own hair.


“Relationship with hair?”, you may be thinking. I know it sounds a little weird but roll with me on this.


You see, other people had a relationship with my own hair:


– The hairdresser who had bought into the notion that relaxing my hair was the best presentation of it to the world because it flowed and was shiny.


– Society (friends, colleagues, relatives, acquaintances and strangers) that loved the fact that I had silky, long hair for a black girl which in their view enhanced my beauty.



2018 bAw Natural Hair Appreciation Tea


I had such a clear understanding of how everyone saw and related to the one thing on my body that grows in a way that I cannot control. But I had no clue what my hair was to me.


And so, I decided it was time to get to know this crown of glory on my head a little better. Time to reintroduce myself to what it actually looked like with no manipulation or further assistance in the form of chemicals. Time to learn more about what made it tick and what just threw it off completely.


My relationship with my hair started after 25 years of walking around with this mass on my head that I couldn’t quite explain and was mostly ashamed of, especially in its natural state. I transitioned into my natural coils, and you can read all about that here.



2018 bAw Natural Hair Appreciation Tea


It’s been a good 8 years since I was formally introduced to my natural hair and our relationship is still evolving. I learn from mistakes and trials. I learn from observing others in their own relationship with their coils. I learn from conversations with others about their hair.


I get over my coils every so often as with any relationship. I absolutely admire them on most days when we’re having a good hair day. I am blown away by the results of intentional effort in terms of taking care of my crown of glory. And some days still, I take it for granted. It’s literally a relationship fam.


My team and I would like to invite you into relationship with your own African Crown – your natural hair. Or to come explore this relationship further – take it to the next level if you will 🙂


If this sounds like something you’d like to do, join us on Sunday 5 May to sip some tea and indulge in yummy treats. At the same time, you’ll have the opportunity to either commit to, blossom in, or renew vows with your natural hair.


You’ll be surprised by the results of putting in the time to get to know a part of your being that was given to you.



2017 bAw Natural Hair Appreciation Tea


This is what you can expect from our day together:


  • Full high tea in a stunning and serene garden setting
  • Bottomless tea or coffee
  • Talks around natural hair and skin care from Wandisa Nkosi of @justsheabutter and Norma Mzizi of @normastouch.africa
  • Informational pack with tips to assist you on your natural hair journey
  • Samples and prizes for your coils from our partners
  • An opportunity to ask questions and share your own experiences with your relationship with your hair


Email us at theblackafricanwoman@gmail.com or contact us at 083 937 4969 to book your spot!


Hope to see you there sis and to learn from your own experience too.


With love,

Sonia Dee


Hair Event Final Poster